Working at home as a freelance writer, I feel like I’ve unknowingly sheltered myself from rejection.
When I was taking calls as a customer service representative for Prudential of America, getting rejected, yelled at, and scolded for things beyond my control were a normal part of my life. I’d experience all these things 50 to 70 times a day! Yes, I kept a tally.
When Freedom Backfires On You
Now, I have an unhealthy control over my work environment.
I have clients, but no traditional boss to speak off that can reject my ideas and leave requests. And because I worked for myself, I can send as much (or as little) job applications and pitches as I want.
I can pitch higher paying markets, or save my ego by keeping my story ideas to myself.
I can write a book, or start an online business — I have the resources (240+ books and 30+ online courses) and know-how, after all. But the possibility of failure induces an analysis paralysis in me so strong; I surrender before I even begin.
I didn’t know it then, but the comfort and job security I felt was slowly turning me into someone I am not.
Losing my Inner Bitch
You know what I mean.
I used to be a savvy negotiator. I even perfected a deadpan face I don in the face of harsh criticisms. I used to be fearless in chasing new opportunities that come my way.
I miss my old self.
But I am determined to bring that part of myself back — even if it means getting rejected for 100 days.
Jia Jiang’s TEDx talk on tackling the fear of rejection inspired me to try this experiment myself.
After all, what is 100 rejections spread over 100 days, compared to 50-70 rejections a day?
Surely I can handle that, right?
Join Me for 100 Days of Rejection
Care to join me in this crazy experiment?
The mechanics are simple enough: you have to be rejected by someone who doesn’t know about your experiment at least once a day for 100 days. Check out this post to find out more about the rejection therapy experiment.
We can keep each other accountable using the hashtag #Iamfearless100 on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.