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Day 1 of 100 Days of Rejection: My Guest Post was Declined

After 2 hours combing past blog entries to get a clue for popular topics, and then spending an hour more writing a customized pitch, my query was declined.

DECLINED by a popular blog.


I didn’t even get a curt “No.”

No explanation, no “Thanks, but no thanks.”

I got no reply after spending 4 hours writing what I think is a great query.

How do I know it’s rejected?

Because I use Sidekick, so I know they received AND opened my email. Twice.

And after two weeks of waiting, I still haven’t heard back.


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Rejection is a Norm in Guest Posting and Magazine Writing

I know getting rejected is normal when you’re pitching big blogs for guest posts. It’s the same when you’re pitching magazines.

As Carol and Linda repeatedly told the students of J-school and Pitch Clinic course, “Don’t take rejections personally.”

According to them, the rejection has nothing to do with you. In most cases, it’s just a matter of finding the right market for your publication. And timing — when you send that query counts, too.

Hope is Not Lost

I got a couple of acceptances anyway, so all hope is not lost. Yes, they’re not for publications as big as my target, but a yes is a yes.

I’ll just revise this query and send it to another website.

La speranza è l’ultima a morire

I’m keeping my chin up.

100 days of rejection

Reviving the Hyperactive and Fearless Go-getter in Me through 100 Days of Rejection

Working at home as a freelance writer, I feel like I’ve unknowingly sheltered myself from rejection.

When I was taking calls as a customer service representative for Prudential of America, getting rejected, yelled at, and scolded for things beyond my control were a normal part of my life. I’d experience all these things 50 to 70 times a day! Yes, I kept a tally.
100 days of rejection

When Freedom Backfires On You

Now, I have an unhealthy control over my work environment.

I have clients, but no traditional boss to speak off that can reject my ideas and leave requests. And because I worked for myself, I can send as much (or as little) job applications and pitches as I want.

I can pitch higher paying markets, or save my ego by keeping my story ideas to myself.workstation

I can write a book, or start an online business — I have the resources (240+ books and 30+ online courses) and know-how, after all. But the possibility of failure induces an analysis paralysis in me so strong; I surrender before I even begin.

I didn’t know it then, but the comfort and job security I felt was slowly turning me into someone I am not.

Losing my Inner Bitch

You know what I mean.

I used to be a savvy negotiator. I even perfected a deadpan face I don in the face of harsh criticisms. I used to be fearless in chasing new opportunities that come my way.

I miss my old self.

But I am determined to bring that part of myself back — even if it means getting rejected for 100 days.

Jia Jiang’s TEDx talk on tackling the fear of rejection inspired me to try this experiment myself.

After all, what is 100 rejections spread over 100 days, compared to 50-70 rejections a day?

Surely I can handle that, right?

Join Me for 100 Days of Rejection

Care to join me in this crazy experiment?

The mechanics are simple enough: you have to be rejected by someone who doesn’t know about your experiment at least once a day for 100 days. Check out this post to find out more about the rejection therapy experiment.

We can keep each other accountable using the hashtag #Iamfearless100 on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.